What will a man give me
“What will a man give me?” is legitimate only beside a question about one’s own contribution. Without it, a partner is evaluated as a bundle of services: income, housing, status, protection, and entertainment. His needs do not enter the model.
Why this is not partnership
Section titled “Why this is not partnership”The relationship begins by selecting a provider rather than making a mutual choice. A man must prove utility in advance; a woman retains the right to evaluate without naming reciprocal duties. Any request for symmetry is dismissed as bargaining.
Equality is replaced with the privilege of receiving while remaining free to promise nothing.
What to do
Section titled “What to do”Ask the mirrored question: what will each person bring, which duties will each accept, and which boundaries will each respect? Discuss a workable life for two people, not an entry price for the man.
Do not interview for the role of a resource. Reciprocity begins when both people may ask the same question.